Saturday, February 5, 2011

I’ve got my first ever Twitter-date...

I’ve got my first ever Twitter-date tonight and I’m nervous! And I'm trying to understand why. As a general rule I've never really worried about what people think of me, self-confidence has never been a problem. But this is a little different. And I am way out of my comfort zone. Let me bring you up to speed…
@StMurphy
As you know I am Twitter obsessed – if it doesn’t happen on Twitter it doesn’t really happen. I’ve lived on it since I discovered it in August. One of the guys that I’ve been bantering with over the past few months is a guy called @Simieboy. All I know about him is what I know from his tweets. He’s a very funny guy, he’s madly in love with his boyfriend, he just got a new job and he has a pool. He is from Melbourne and I’m working down here at the moment. Perfect time for us to catch up and finally meet.

So why am I nervous? Well I've never ever met someone from the internet before. Boyfriend and I met the old-fashioned way - in a dirty nightclub very late in the night - and we've been together for 6 years now. Before that I was a self-absorbed trashbag. So I’ve never had any experience with any sort of internet dating or blind dates. All those sites like ManHunt, Grindr, Gaydar, RSVP and chat rooms are completely foreign to me. To meet someone who you’ve only been tapping away with on a computer is ground-breaking. Obviously our Twitter-date is purely platonic and its all about meeting new cool people, but it still makes me real nervous to be meeting someone that you’ve only ever known online.

What if they don’t like me? What if I’m boring? What if I’m not as interesting as I am online (you can easily fake interesting in under 140 characters)? What if he doesn't recognise me from my 7 year old profile pic? Now I understand all the insecurity that comes with meeting people online. I’ve seriously been planning wardrobe, saving up some interesting stories and trying to remember what lies I’ve told in tweets. And all I’m talking about is meeting a new friend! I can’t even imagine what pressure you must put on yourself if you were trying to get laid.

Ok, maybe I’m being a little dramatic, that’s certainly in my nature. But the bottom line is I think our witty, semi-intelligent repartee will translate into a new, in-the-flesh Melbourne friend. For years my motto has been “I don’t do new people” – I’m too lazy and they bore me easily. My friends have set the bar too high. Twitter has shown me that maybe I have been too judgemental all these years and that you can always be making new friends. It happens at least once a day on Twitter, surely some of those can be shifted into the real world?

So @Simieboy and I are going to put it to the test tonight. It could be hilarious, it could end in tears. What if he wears denim shorts or votes Liberal? What if he loves soft-rock music or Brut deoderant?  Who really cares. The best part is that after many years of being a selfish, judgemental, rude bitch I’ve learnt that its probably not a good thing to go through life “not doing new people”.

I wonder if we'll only speak in sentences that are under 140 characters long???


Note: It was @TheKylieApp and @Paullamond's idea to write this! They saved me from a blank page.


7 comments:

Mrs Woog said...

Ohhh how fun! I have met bloggers in real life and it is fantastic. Have fun and behave xo

Nathanael said...

Ok, I tried to comment from my iPhone about 40 times and it didn't work. It hates me. So i have taken extreme action and opened my laptop. Insert gasp here.
Right, anyway. I met a previous boyfriend online and we were together for five years, also dated a guy for a little while whom I met on twitter. And have made various lifelong friends through the interwebs.
It is a fabulous way to veto people before you inflict an hour of their company upon yourself (although it is not always failsafe) .
Have the best time with your new friend, I hope it is wonderful.
Nathanael xo

Ms Styling You said...

St Murphy, this was exactly how I felt before meeting Mrs Woog, except I was confident we'd get along as we had a lot in common ... we liked gin AND vodka AND wine AND champagne.X

Simie-Boy said...

What's wrong with Brut?

Toushka Lee said...

I have more friends that started as online friends than real fleshies. It's awesome. It used to be sad and weird... but not anymore. have a great night!!

So Now What? said...

I've done it about four times now. Well I have three children, so I'm guessing that's no secret. #boomtish.

Seriously though, I've met up with @squigglyrick and on four separate occasions, met up with people from twitter and so far, no one has tried to axe murder me, or as my husband predicted, try to involve me in a mad swingers party. (which let's be honest, he was secretly hoping for)

Enjoy, Open heart means good things, more friends, diversity and most importantly, fun.
xx Bern

ST. MURPHY said...

Twitter-date went real well. Details on Monday's post. x

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